Even if low expectations have been programmed in since childhood, it is possible to adopt a brighter outlook and succeed says DESPINA NICOLA

Children are like recorders, downloading material that will be played throughout their lives. They record all positive and negative dialogues they have with people, observing the rules that each situation has. Research shows that 70 per cent of what children record is negative.

They are also conditioned by adults about what their role is in life. By repeated patterning, it gets programmed into their subconscious and then stored into the unconscious. Many then live their lives with such an imprint of believing they are not enough.

An example of this would be a teacher asking a six-year-old, ‘Don’t you know how to write your name yet? Why did you spell it wrong?’ Similar events get imprinted and anchored into the child’s mind. The child then becomes an adult who feels incompetent, as learning is processed through repetition. So, if you repeat either positive or negative dialogues with a child, it gets stored.

This can be compared to learning the ABC. The child must repeat the letters hundreds of times. Then the alphabet gets imprinted and stored in their unconscious. Later, the child mechanically knows what comes after the letter Y.

As an adult, it is like learning to drive a car. In the beginning, it needs conscious thought. You must think about using the clutch, pedals, gears, indicators, brakes and so on… After a few years, the process is automatic.

Research again shows that those recorded programmes from ages 0 to 7 are what we, as adults, work from 95 per cent of the time. The other five per cent is what our conscious works on. This occurs when we are aware of life and are living in the moment. This could be like your first kiss. You were totally in the moment.

The conscious and subconscious mind work together but do not perform the same function. The conscious can learn information and understand it at that moment. Studies show that for that information to be used in everyday life, it needs to be repeated, then it gets stored as a habit.

That’s where the job of the subconscious comes in. The subconscious is just like playing back the downloaded repetitive events of the conscious mind. Nobody is running the subconscious mind though. It has no thought of its own. It’s like a generator churning out whatever is put in.

When changes occur, it is the job of the conscious mind to take over. It acts and can manifest the recording with its thoughts, but it needs to continually practice for change to happen. If the conscious is motivated by positive events, it will be used, and it briefly changes its behaviour. However, it won’t be imprinted unless the mind practices the new pattern repeatedly.

Unfortunately, children get programmed with harmful beliefs. These beliefs become facts in their lives. This is seen when the offspring of poor families believe it is their fate in life to be poor. Their fears are stored during childhood. They justify the belief imprinted at 0-7 years of age that attract inadequacies, while rich children may feel worthy of riches. They magnetise people and opportunities that match their recorded belief.

The reason a child attracts similar events as their upbringing is that in their childhood they live in both reality and fantasy. This is because the child works at a low vibration of a theta frequency. Theta frequency is essentially the relaxed stage before deep sleep. Children live in that fantasy world most of the time, riding brooms and believing they are unicorns, or entertaining friends with tea parties and mud cakes.

Children also closely observe their environment, parents, siblings, teachers, peers and community. They try to understand and make sense of their world by abiding by all the rules and adapting to different situations. However, adults or others may have been detrimental role models during that time period. Then, when they become adults, the children may question whether they can overwrite that programme of the past.

The answer is 100 per cent yes!

You can go back to that hypnotic, theta state. Through relaxation or deep meditation you can re-enter those childhood years as an adult. You bypass the conscious, negative rules and go straight to the unconscious. There, you can over-write the programme. Repetition is the answer. You play a different recording and thus become your destined self.

By overwriting the recording, you put in positive, self-serving thoughts. You become who you want to be. By acting on the patterns of new behaviours repeatedly, limited beliefs change. This can be hard work, and in the beginning, you may feel like an impostor, but it’s important to fake it until you make it. You can overwrite the negative behaviour.