When you first fall in love, it’s easy for you and your partner to feel infatuated with each other. But after the honeymoon phase, things may not always feel as passionate as they once did.
To keep your relationship alive, you need to work at it. This doesn’t have to be hard, but it does take consistent effort. Otherwise, your partner may start to feel underappreciated.
So here are eight proven ways to make your significant other feel special:
Show your appreciation.
No relationship can survive without both partners feeling appreciated by the other.
So say thank you often, even for the small things like taking out the trash. Never take anything for granted.
You might even occasionally write your partner a sweet thank you card or note and leave it somewhere they’ll easily find it, like on their pillow or by their car keys.
Showing your appreciation can go a long way.
2. Tell them you love them.
It’s not enough to know you love your partner. You must tell them that you do. Or, in the words of Shakespeare, “They do not love that do not show their love.”
Tell your partner you love them before you go to bed every night and sporadically throughout the day. Make sure they know.
If you do it often, your partner is more likely to feel loved.
3. Get them a gift.
Your partner’s love language might be receiving gifts. If that’s the case (and even if not), why not get them a gift every now and then?
You could give them some new clothes, a special night out with their friends, or some nice jewelry. For example, you might get them a stunning diamond ring or necklace.
Whatever you do, be thoughtful in your choice of gifts.
4. Leave them little notes.
Another common love language is words of affirmation. To make your partner feel special, you can slip a sweet note into their pocket when they’re not looking. Or you could send them a random text telling them you’re thinking about them.
A note could include words of encouragement, an inside joke, or just a simple “I love you.” Whatever it is, make it personal and from the heart.
5. Do something nice for them
Sometimes, it’s the little gestures that count. For example, you could brush the snow off your partner’s car or cook their favorite meal for them (bonus points for doing the dishes afterward, too).
Do something to make your partner’s life easier. It shows that you care and are willing to help them.
6. Complement them
Everyone likes to be complimented, and it costs almost nothing.
Tell your partner how good they look, say you like what they’re wearing, or compliment their new haircut. Do it at the moment.
Also, brag about them in front of friends and family (but try not to embarrass them unless they like it).
7. Show physical affection
When you’re in a romantic relationship, it’s important to show physical affection. It shows that you’re attracted to your partner.
So give them a hug. Hugs help release oxytocin, aka the “love hormone.” Or offer to give them a massage. It will have a similar effect.
And don’t forget to kiss them often, too.
8. Give them your undivided attention
Lastly, spend quality time with your significant other without distractions. You could play a game, read a book, or go out to eat.
While you’re at it, put away your phone. If you’re constantly checking your notifications, it sends the wrong message: that whatever’s happening online is more important than your partner.
Instead, be present and carve out moments to be alone with your partner and no one else.
Adding it all up
Relationships aren’t always easy. But with a little effort, you can significantly improve them. Try out some of the gestures above and see how your partner responds. Chances are, it’ll make their day!